How forgiving are you?

UZ · Oct 12th, 2009, 07:16 PM

If some child in the party keeps hitting your child what will you do?

NJMasti · Oct 12th, 2009, 09:00 PM

ummmmm in my mind: smack him so hard that he would remember his nani!

ummmmmmm - in real life I would have to be majboor and tell him what he is doing is wrong - and then I would have a long chat with his mom in SUPER ANGRY tone in FRONT of the kid so he knows HE IS THE REASON someone is ANGRY WITH HIS MOM.

Muzna · Oct 13th, 2009, 09:44 AM

I would reprimand the child that hit and let my child know that if it happens again to come and tell me or go and tell that child's parent.

If a repeat occurred I would go and speak with the child's parent.

ChicaGurl · Oct 13th, 2009, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by UZ

If some child in the party keeps hitting your child what will you do?

I would tell the child gently in front of itz parents that it is not a good thing to hit other kids.must say most parents turn a blind eye wen dey see their kids r hitting another kid but wen its da other way round all hell breaks free.

Mamaof3 · Oct 13th, 2009, 01:01 PM

I'd take the hitter and make him/her apologize to their victim. Then thehitter has to go sit in a corner for a couple of minutes. When time is up, the hitter is gently told that hitting is not nice. If theres something wrong, you use words - not hands - to get the problem resolved. This is what I would and have done, whether the other parents are there or not.

UZ · Oct 13th, 2009, 04:13 PM

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Originally Posted by NJMasti

ummmmm in my mind: smack him so hard that he would remember his nani!

ummmmmmm - in real life I would have to be majboor and tell him what he is doing is wrong - and then I would have a long chat with his mom in SUPER ANGRY tone in FRONT of the kid so he knows HE IS THE REASON someone is ANGRY WITH HIS MOM.

PS.In real life you cannot talk to mom super angry nj

because some moms are always readyt to fught.

UZ · Oct 13th, 2009, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Muzna

I would reprimand the child that hit and let my child know that if it happens again to come and tell me or go and tell that child's parent.

If a repeat occurred I would go and speak with the child's parent.

Yes we can do that number one if child listens and number if his mom listens.

UZ · Oct 13th, 2009, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by ChicaGurl

I would tell the child gently in front of itz parents that it is not a good thing to hit other kids.must say most parents turn a blind eye wen dey see their kids r hitting another kid but wen its da other way round all hell breaks free.

Yes we can tell in front of child's parents but again some moms are totally idiots

UZ · Oct 13th, 2009, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Mamaof3

I'd take the hitter and make him/her apologize to their victim. Then thehitter has to go sit in a corner for a couple of minutes. When time is up, the hitter is gently told that hitting is not nice. If theres something wrong, you use words - not hands - to get the problem resolved. This is what I would and have done, whether the other parents are there or not.

Mama some parents don't mind if we give their children time out but some of our desi culture moms love their children so much that their face color changes and they take everything personally.

Mamaof3 · Oct 13th, 2009, 04:39 PM

well I'd then ask the mom whether she'd like some "calming" herbal tea to soothe her nerves for her havingto deal with such a difficult child

MIAinVA · Oct 13th, 2009, 04:50 PM

I can sooooo relate to this question..... We had a dinner party at our home and invited this couple over with an 18 months old son and he kept hitting my 3 yr old daughter..... that is too young to be scolded or given a time-out.... he won't even understand it. All I could do was first tell him no, no hitting and when that didn't work I asked my daughter to stay away from him and stay with me. Then he was going around hitting other kids (a little girl his age), I had to pick him up and move him to another section of the room and gave him some toys, while his mom was busy chatting with other ladies

When his mom saw, she just gave an embarrassed laugh and said "oh, he doesn't know how to behave with other kids since he's at home with me all the time" I was like

I wanted to say then teach him how lady.... what are playdates and playgroups for, but kept my mouth shut.

How does one tackle such a situation?

ChicaGurl · Oct 14th, 2009, 09:44 AM

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I can sooooo relate to this question..... We had a dinner party at our home and invited this couple over with an 18 months old son and he kept hitting my 3 yr old daughter..... that is too young to be scolded or given a time-out.... he won't even understand it. All I could do was first tell him no, no hitting and when that didn't work I asked my daughter to stay away from him and stay with me. Then he was going around hitting other kids (a little girl his age), I had to pick him up and move him to another section of the room and gave him some toys, while his mom was busy chatting with other ladies

When his mom saw, she just gave an embarrassed laugh and said "oh, he doesn't know how to behave with other kids since he's at home with me all the time" I was like

I wanted to say then teach him how lady.... what are playdates and playgroups for, but kept my mouth shut.

How does one tackle such a situation?

18 month old child should be told firmly that he/she is doing something wrong hey u should of told her(the mom) to watch supernanny and learn how to make him understand

NJMasti · Oct 14th, 2009, 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by UZ

PS.In real life you cannot talk to mom super angry nj

because some moms are always readyt to fught.

I was just thinking about that!

My tone only gets angry on chats and message borad

Never in real life

UZ · Oct 14th, 2009, 11:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Mamaof3

well I'd then ask the mom whether she'd like some "calming" herbal tea to soothe her nerves for her havingto deal with such a difficult child

nice one I'll try that sometime.

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Originally Posted by NJMasti

I was just thinking about that!

My tone only gets angry on chats and message borad

Never in real life

Niksik · Oct 15th, 2009, 02:39 AM

This kid once squeezed my daughter's hand so hard that I saw her face turn red and tears swell up so his mom and I rushed to the scene but his grip was so hard that he wouldn't let go. I was hoping that his mom would give him a spanking so he could release her but instead she whispered ever so gently "honey let go honey let go" but honey didn't budge so I raised my voice and asked him to leave her. Finally he did.

Decent 6Chora · Oct 15th, 2009, 08:52 AM

We have asked our older one (who is 7 now) to solve the problem himself by going to that kids mom and complain. We just think that kids should try to solve the problem by themselves and around 80% of the time, this eliminates the need to parent-to-parent complaining. Haan if this goes on for long (or that kids parent is not taking our kid seriously), then we just divert kids attention to some other activity or game.