Barfii

Hello Ladies..

Just wondered if anyone else on this forum is trying to conceive? I thought a thread would be a good place for ladies to "meet" and share tips, offer support and advice etc...

I'm currently trying to conceive my first child, although I was pregnant last year but sadly miscarried. My Husband and I really want to start a family and I would really like to give a nephew/niece to my Brother in Law and another Grandchild to my Inlaws and Mum. We've had a tough time the last 2 years and I hope, InshAllah, a little baby would bring everyone in my family a lot of happines..

Any other ladies out there..? Would love to hear from you..

Honey*19

I think we almost share the same story ...

But as far as i know there has been a thread about conceiving already ...

and i am really close to giving up as we have been trying for 4 months now, i know this might be nothing compared to couples who are trying for years, its just so depressing every time u again get ur periods and cant really do anything about it ...
I mean everything with me is just fine, my thyroid is on a healthy level as it should be, i hardly have anaemia which normally can be a reason, i eat healthy, i dun drunk, i dun smoke, i take pregnacare every day ... But still ....

Barfii

You know, my Sister (may Allah (swt) grant her jannt) had a habit of ALWAYS being right.. and I mean ALWAYS and if I was in the same situation as you she would tell me that everything happens for a reason and Allah (swt) never burdens us with more than we can handle.. And she'd be right..

I can imagine how hard it must be month after month but what's the alternative.. stop trying so you don't feel that pain every month when you period arrives..? Then you'll never become pregnant..

You have to be "in it, to win it" and you cannot give up.. InshAllah, all the stress you'd have gone thru would have more than worth it when you have your baby in your arms. The best things in life never come easy and the harder the fight, the better the victory...

Do you know how long your monthly cycle is? Have you been using anything to predict ovulation? How is your Husbands health? Does he smoke?..

Sahar02

It took me a while to conceive. I do not have regular periods, and was not ovulating regularly. Hubby and I tried naturally for almost a year. Then we decided to see a specialist. I was really nervous about seeing the specialist. Was it the right thing to do? Was it right to interfere with what Allah SWT wanted for us? Was there a reason we should wait?

Anyway, the specialists I saw were great, and for anyone having trouble conceiving I HIGHLY recommend going as soon as you can to the specialist. OBGYNs will most likely prescribe you Clomid for several rounds, and that may or may not help you. It might even cause more obstacles to conception. I've spoken to several people who wish they had gone to the specialist earlier.

Both hubby and I were tested. Hubby was mashAllah perfect. I was not ovulating, but the doctors said my age and egg supply were on our side. They could see lots of potential. So we tried Clomid first. I only ovulated once and we did not conceive.

We moved on to what seemed like more scary medication but ended up being great. There are injectible medications (I took Follistim), which are more expensive but often more effective. I have a huge needle-phobia, but I actually managed to inject myself, with hubby standing by for support! It wasn't bad at all. And mashAllah we conceived.

The trying to conceive process was exhausting -- aside from the emotional disappointment each month, I was regularly going to the specialist for monitoring, getting blood drawn regularly, taking meds that made me feel funny, etc. But at the same time I was overcoming a lot of my own fears, and I think the struggle was important for me as I come closer to motherhood. Allah SWT works in mysterious ways


For those TTC, I would recommend a few things:
1. Read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler and follow its advice
2. If you already have a known fertility issue, do not hide it or hope it will go away -- address it asap.
3. Learn to monitor your cycles. Keep track of if/when you menstruate. Also see if you can identify when you ovulate (Weschler talks about the signs in detail).
4. Talk to a doctor.
5. Do not hesitate to see a specialist if you need.
6. I also began reading this website: Infertility - IVF, TTC, PCOS, Causes, Fertility Treatment, Male Infertility and joined these forums: Infertility, Fertility Forums, Message Boards, Discussion Groups. IVF, TTC, In Vitro, etc There are a lot of knowledgeable and supportive people there.

Best wishes, and don't hesitate to PM me if you have questions.

sheyn

automne77

Hubby and I have been trying to conceive for a year....our schedules have come in our way a lot...and even though I kind of had an idea of when I was ovulating... reading the book Taking Charge of your fertility.... but soemthing or the other kept coming our way....

I have had irregular periods for a good part of my life.... We have been seeing a herbalist, and we plan on giving his medicine another 2 months. I pray we conceive soon... sometimes it is sooo hard to keep your spirits up... ... It is Allah's will and He does best.... and alhamdulillah I am happy in my life.... but ppl pointing out no kids yet... kinda pulls me down....

I also get my periods everytime I exercise close to my date...and for the simple reason of hoping that this month I might have conceived I can not exercise.... by the time I can ...we are trying again and so the cycle continues.... This frustrates me just as much....

Just sharing my story...

somegroovychick

hubby and i are just starting down this route. we've only really gotten serious about it in the past month, but knowing my periods are coming up is still upsetting. ludicrous, i know, after just three weeks of waiting...
but yeah, i can see what you mean and i hope iA all of us end up having beautiful, healthy babies, when we are meant to have them, and in the meantime may Allah SWT grant us patience.

CorruptAngel

Hey ladies,
I'm in the same boat as all of you...My situation is similar to Sahar's. My hubby and I have been trying for about 5-6 months and so far no luck! But we are now seeing a specialist, I have been going for ultrasounds and bloodwork from last month. My hubby is fine but I have fibroids otherwise I'm healthy. Just finished Clomid and today took an Ovidrel hormone injection which will hopefully help us concieve. *fingers crossed* I really recommend you guys to see a specialist asap so you can find out what's the issue and get treated if needed.

InshAllah all of us will get pregnant will healthy babies soon...Please keep me in your prayers!

tashfeen

My side of the story... My story is bit differnt from yours in the way that I didt wait THAT long, yet that was frustrating..

We waiting for 3 months... and thats PRETTY normal because your body was trying to regulate... meanwhile it was so depressing having your periods each month inspite of working all you know... I have registered on EVERY site I know..I am still receiving their tips via email (even though I've conceived now, alhamdolilah).... and those emails even throw me to more gloomy side.... so better not to think, better not to register at too many places ( i know its hard too)..if you are trying long enough go to some specialist.

Sahar02

^ If it upsets you, you should definitely unsubscribe. Congratulations!

Sahar02

I took Ovidrel too! Best wishes, CA!

Sahar02

Sheyn, I know that stress has a negative impact in fertility, but it is also very frustrating for women who are experiencing infertility to constantly be told to "just relax" and "just wait" etc. Often that isn't the best solution, nor is it possible to "just relax." What does that mean?


I have heard really good things about accupuncture. In fact, my specialist works directly with an accupuncture/wholistic medicine place (they are housed on the same floor of an office building). And I was planning on giving it a try if this last treatment hadn't worked out. I felt I needed a break from the meds.

Honey*19

You are so right, i know .. And thank u for those motivating words ..

I feel like i am beeing punished, in the first year after marriage i got pregnant, but a month before that we moved from germany to england which was a reason for my husband to say that he doesnt want a child right now, as we were in that settling down procces and all ....
i did all i could to make him see things diferently but i lost ... and had to abort ...

For me it felt like the end of the world, feeling of guilt, hatred, depression, i cant describe how i have lived my days and nights after that.. I was literally devastated, every time i just kept asking myself why didnt i fight till the end, why did i let HIM take such an important decision of our lives alone ...

After like 6 or 7 months he saw in what kinda condition he got me in and said one day lets try it again ...
Can u belive it ...

Another 1 year has passed since then and i am trying to concieve, everytime it doesnt work its like i can feel ALLAHS anger and not wanting us to bless again ...

Sahar02

^ I'm so sorry you had to go through that and that your husband approached it as he did.

MIAinVA

It means relax when you're making love and trying to conceive..... don't do stuff mechanically

Sahar02

^ Well that should always be true .

Honey*19

kya karr sakte hein ... Jo hogaya so hogaya ...
i jus pray that may ALLAH forigive me

Sahar02

Keep praying. I think Allah SWT forgives those who are sincere.

Don't see this delay as a punishment. Maybe it is a time for you and your husband to heal your relationship and an opportunity for you to grow. We don't know why He challenges us as He does, but I do not think it is a punishment for you.

Honey*19

Ya u r definitely right, and deep down i do know that jo hota hai ussmay ALLAH ki koi behtri hoti hai ... And whenever i do feel down or sad because of what has happened i do tell myself that mayoosi ghuna hai and just pray that everything will turns out the best for us ...

And thank u for those nice words and for that motivation, i somewhere needed that a lot cuz i dont/cant talk to anybody else about this, even posting it here on GS was not that easy ..

CorruptAngel

Thank you so much for sharing your story...it gives us hope. I'm glad I know someone who went through similar. I need to ask you something, let me PM you now.