Deeba1234

My Dad was there for my birth and despite being a doctor he passed out lol, not sure if he was there for my younger brother's birth.. I would want my other half there with me as there's no-one else I feel closer to..

Sahar02

I actually don't think that would bother me. Is that weird?

Nomadic2009

We haven't actually discussed this yet as we(read:ME) are still going through the cutesy baby stuff and ooh-ing and aah-ing over it and haven't actually thought about the actual labor part.
But my husband once did mention that he wasn't too keen on the idea of being there.And the thing is that if I think about it,I actually don't mind.If he is there it will be great but if not ,then still I am ok with it.Not sure how I will feel about this in a few months time though.
Is that weird??

Sahar02

^ My hubby definitely wants to be there, but insists he'll be up by my head and no where else (which is fine by me!). He also wasn't too keen on cutting the cord, but lately he feels like he could handle that small part of the process, given what I have to endure.

Bint_e_Naeem

This reminds me 2 days ago I made my hubby promise me that during delivery he no matter WHAT has to be by my head side. He doesn't get to go anywhere else or see anything else.

Nomadic maybe he says so because he feels a little nervous about the whole situation or how or if he will be able to handle it.

I think our husbands should be there if possible. It will make them appreciate us more & in a very different manner.

I always tease my hubby how us women go through all the painful stuff & babies get to be named after their fathers. How generous of us women

khawateen

men say and think a lot of things when women are pregnant.. and then go ahead and do the complete opp at the actual time of delivery

my man didnt wanna cut the cord.. and although he really wanted to be in teh dlivery room, he said he didnt wanna see down south and would stay by my head..

come time for delivery.. he had inched his way towards the south, wondered how on earth i was gonna pop out a human being from such narrow passage, had to keep calling him back towards me but he was glued to teh actual sight of the baby coming out.. and then happily, cut the cord...

some ppl say that it ruins the marriage and how the husband thinks of his wife, if he sees the actual delivery... but my hsuband says its just given him more respect for me.. he doesnt even remember teh grossness of it all..

so ladies.. take ure man... if nothing.. let him see what he has done to u

Sahar02

^ Aw that's adorable and hilarious!

mrsshy

Hi

My husband was there and it's great for the support. I felt cold during labour and the nurses kept putting the fan on so I would tell my husband to putit off, then he would rub my arm to comfort me but it would annoy me so I could shout and say will u stop that, hehehe

But I have read a book a year back which said Islamically it wasn't allowed, it should only be female midwives.

It said something about how in Islam a women has to be kept dignified etc, I am in the Uk, and the nurses had me fully covered with a parition over my lower half, even I couldn't see anything past my legs, it was good, so I didn't feel I was undignified.

And the news that comes when the baby is born should be for both parents to hear and enjoy.

Allah is forgiving and accepting.

Take care

*HNK*

hmm .. so islamically it is not allowed for anyone else to be present in the room other than midwifes? but why cant the husband be there?

maroush

Mr Maroush was there for the first two and he sure as heck is going to be there for the third

Ira

IF it was not allowed islamically, there would be some mention of it in ahadeeth or quran. Just because a woman should stay dignified at all occassions doesnt mean she cannot have the support of her husband. That is not an islamic excuse. He is her mahram after all.

mrsshy

I will try to find the book or article and then say what it said, but I remember it saying we had become so involved in what is 'norm' in what the west do and it wasn't allowed 'etc etc' but if anyone can find anything online then please let me know as I will feel less guilty taking my hubby to the labour room if it is permissable.

sweetu

speaking of dignity i wonder where dignity goes when the baby making proccess is going on

candy_apple

Am I the ONLY one that would prefer my mom be there over my husband? I can't fathom the thought of him being there. My mother is so motherly. She is the type of mother that massages my head or tummy when it hurts (even now that I am a grown adult). She is so motherly, I feel that when I am in THAT much pain, only a motherly figure could put me at ease. I feel my husband would be useless in that situation.

Then again, my husband really wants to be there. I've told him I prefer that he is not there, but he is not having it. :S

Niksik

Candy...you need a strong hand to hold when you are in labor

Dubaiwali

Why Nikky mami? Cant you hold the sidebars?

Niksik

Aisha, no, those sidebars don't move with you...they are cold, they don't have feelings.

Dubaiwali

Oh ok, I thought you just wanted something to hold you study and exert your power at during the pushing.

somegroovychick

^ those sidebars didn't get you in that position and suffering that pain- its only fair he's there to participate, support, and experience the birth of your child together! he shouldn't be deprived of that, imho.

TeenDabbyWala

So do we have confirmation that husbands are not allowed in the labor room in Pakistan? Don't give us examples of Chuk #45 Public Clinic.