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      My almost 5 year old has suddenly started hitting him self, when ever he gets upset, he can not get his way or he is unable to do something he wants to do. I usually never give in to his demands. It first started with the line you dont like me you dont love me anymore, you love baby more and such lines. I thought may be because of the new baby he is not getting enough attention and tried to rectify it but it has gotten worse. today he was at a playdate and the mom organizing the playdate had to call me to pick him up early as he was crying and hitting himself for no apparent reason. I have tried to redirect his attention and teach him to talk about his feelings and emotions rather than hitting himself but it is not helping at all. We are mloving back to pak permanently and i just think that this huge change in his life will make the matters worse. I really dont know what else i can do to help him.

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      Take him to your pediatrician or a child psychologist ASAP.

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      My little bro used to do this,he started when he was 3 n a half,and then he stoped when he was 6.
      He left this habit on his own,
      My mom was too scare to say him anything coz he will start hit his self..but now he has stop Doing this Allhumdulilah.
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      it sounds like he's really frustrated and angry and this is the only way he feels he can communicate those feelings to the adults in his life. my 14 month old does that sometimes when he's really upset too. it usually means extra hugs and cuddles.

      a new baby can cause a lot of upheaval in a child's life and maybe the change is too much for him. how about you set aside a special day once a week where he spends a few hours with you, and the two of you do just what he wants to do, and your hubby can watch the baby, and then have one day like that with hubby alone. he's probaly feeling upset because everyone is involved with the baby now, and of course, because babies require more attention. plus, he's 5, so for 4+ years, things have been stable and he'd had you two all to himself, and now suddenly there's this big change. 5 years is a long time in a child's life.

      i googled it and apparently its quite common behaviourally and it seems they mostly do it because they are angry/frustrated/are seeking attention. some parents said telling them "we don't allow hitting in this house" works, some say to ignore it (i don't know if i'd be able to do that though) and some say to redirect their anger and frustration by giving them something to squeeze or a pillow to punch if they get upset. after they calm down is when you should speak to them about it.
      here's more: https://www.google.ca/search?q=5+year+old+hitting+himself+after+new+baby &ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-GBfficial&client=firefox-a&channel=fflb#hl=en&client=firefox-a&hs=bTe&rls=org.mozilla:en-GB%3Aofficial&channel=fflb&sclient=psy-ab&q=5+year+old+hitting+himself+&oq=5+year+old+hit ting+himself+&gs_l=serp.3..0i30l2j0i5i30j0i22.4445 7.44457.0.44726.1.1.0.0.0.0.173.173.0j1.1.0...0.0. ..1c.ZxBRitZyD38&pbx=1&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_cp. r_qf.&fp=89d51f4822d008e2&biw=1800&bih=894


      this is an answer from a child psychologist on the topic: http://www.babycenter.com/404_my-chi...-i-do_69193.bc
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      Thank you so much SGC, rather than taking him to parks and movies in our alone time together with him (me and him or daddy and him) we just started playing with him so that he is not excited and distracted to notice that he has mommy's attention and while we end up constructing something with lego, he shares alot of things. Hitting hasnt stopped completely but decreased considerably.
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      ^ thats so good to hear! well done, mama!
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