Dushwari

How does it feel, making life’s choices, knowing that all along you have been wrong in keeping your routine choice without having realized that there were always better ways to choose from?

Once you are aware of what could have been and should have been your ways, at that moment, changing yourself from there onwards will need time and patience.

How do people come to terms with a later realization about their previous wrong choices and actions? Any theoretical outlook on this aspect of general personal life as you view it?

Thoughts?

zxcvb

Why don't you tell us first?

mehr

I guess time heals and if you feel you made a wrong choice somewhere just brush it off and move on, but make sure you dont make that same mistake again.
If you can try to rectify it.

Dushwari

good point, Mehr. heal-ability, if we will, of time, is a possibility. something more fascinating is, the teachability that it brings forth, along with a further realisation, which eventually clarifies hits and misses in life.
thanks for sharing a good perspective.

X2

dushwari there are a couple of aspects, when you realize you have been wrong, move on and do the right thing,

Now as far as wrong choices, how you deal with them is the nature and impact of those choices, were there choices that well were made but they dont have an ongoing lingering real effect on your present.

so a choice that one could have made that is in the past, lets say you made wrong choices like you drank, well you cant go back an undo it, just move on. it has no impact now..

if it was a wring choice made that had an impact on some relationship or hurt someone, go sort it out with them.

if it is a wrng choice which has an effect in present and future..e.g. career, marriage, or where you have decided to live etc, then it can get tricky and you have to see whether undoing that choice and redoing things is going to be better or worse than making the most of where you are.

In some of these cases we have a real experience with teh choice we made but only have some idea about the option not picked, and we have to realize that reality could be different. You have to then see how miserable are you with the outcome of previous decision, and see how possible it is to change that.

you cant go and change the past so make the most of the present. In some cases there are decisions made and paths taken that you should try to undo, in some cases it is not wise to do that. I think the vast majority of things should just be left in past and not be stressed over.

Dushwari

thanks, Fraudia bhai.
good perspective, and with that, the right choices, have a way of coming along.

when people are in the moment, things present themselves an attractive view, and are seen from the lens of every-thing-will-go-alright.

but, most often than not, things are already decided by some people, or people involved with the people, to have things go wrong.

in such a failure-prone situation, the best thing is to let go of anything and anyone, who has no worth or value for being given importance.

importance given in such situations, cause disappointment.

what resilient people walk away with, is a priceless integrity of personal grace.

& that is the best thing coming out of a situation, that has failing effect due to others, and

not due to the self of a good person and her/ his intentions.