BlindHope

Why some people like to emotionally torture themself purposly?
*they very well know that they are the only one getting hurt and they are not doing ANY harm to anyone.....but they still purposly and secretly do this*

hotcake

Leaving aside the psychological phenomenons which are instrumental in it, one thing above all is their very weak or non existant connection with Allah. They don't respect life or their bods as gifts from Allah.
In absence of an outlet in form of venting out the emotions some chose to take it out on themselves. And some psycho freaks, they consider it cool. And some have brutal, merciless nature but such freaks are found in west IMO.

Panthr3ss

maybe they r not aware of it or in case they are then its probably due to the stuff they went through in their childhood or some very traumatic experience,death of someone really close or frustration anger or some people r quite introvert they dont like to share their feelings with other people so they simply take it out on themselves

Dushwari

it is a matter of personal decision as to what happens to oneself, vs. what others will do to the person, against her/ his will or fate.


on a broader scale,
even though psychological explanations rest in theroies of narcissism and selfish mindless ness as well as sadism.

but, a deeper logic behind such madness is, affecting deterrent fear.

in Mental health and Medical fields, even when you tell a person that s/he may be dying, you dont bluntly say it. as a therapist/ doctor you are expected ethically to uphold your professional obligation towards your patient to be empathic to the patient, unconditionally.

mass murdering in case of warring forces, like occupation of invaded lands, today, weaker people's torture and humilition of their countries, nation hood, disruption and severe damage targeted for the communities, livelihoods and every day family life of victims of such abuse, inhumanity and carnage, which people bring onto their own selves and on to the peoples' lives around them, has to do with proving to themselves, that if death and destruction can be brought on, by other unjust source, then, they can do so, to themselves, first. solely for not letting someone else do so.

redvelvet

What you are referring to is called self-injury/self-harm/self-mutilation.

And if you look it up on the internet you will find that there are several reasons why people self-injure such as :

1) They have low self-esteem and feel the need to physically punish themselves.

2) They have so much pain inside and think they have no outlet for the pain. So, they cut/hurt themselves. Physical injury such as cutting releases chemicals calls endorphins which produce a calming sensation/thrill and help the person to temporarily take their mind off other problems in their life.

3) Depression. And sometimes (although not always) it can be a means of getting attention.

BlindHope

all you guys r taking torture in physical sense.....


how about mentally torturing.....

for instance .....lets say you know that going back in time and thinking about ur past is just gona hurt u and you are slowly killing urself from inside.... but u still keep visiting those place which remind of the incidents or people or things that hurt u ....


why people do that ?

Panthr3ss

have u recently watched the butterfly effect ?cuz it seems so

redvelvet

Blindhope,

It's not only some people who do that. Many of us revisit painful memories during various points in our life. It's human nature. It's just that some people do it more than others. And if revisiting these memories is preventing them from moving forward and leading a more positive lifestyle....then they need support/help.

But keep in mind.....most of us revisit our painful and pleasant past.

You're asking why people do that. Well, it depends on the relationships and feelings that the individual has toward the people who hurt him/her. Think about it. If a stranger/coworker/acquaintance from school says or does something offensive to you......you will be pissed for maybe a few hours and then you'll get over it and forget about it. The reason is because you don't have any strong emotional attachments to this stranger/coworker/acquaintance. BUT if someone that you REALLY TRULY love and care about such as your parents, sibling, best friend, spouse BETRAYS you.............it's VERY PAINFUL and it becomes harder to move on from this because you have stronger emotional attachments to that person. Also you have better expectations from people you are close to which is why their betrayal hurts more.


It's healthy to revisit the past sometimes and learn lessons from it. For example, if you've dealt with people who have screwed you over in the past....you learn the lesson of being more cautious in the future. Also, keep in mind that everyone is different. Some people move on quickly whereas other people take a longer time in moving on from past hurts. As I said earlier, if the individual is having trouble with focusing on daily activities because they are consumed with the past.....then they need help.