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      Has anyone else ever noticed the "ARROGANCE", and always carrying a Chip on their shoulder "Mega attitude" Oldest children seem to have?

      I have a few questions to ask all the Oldest Children that feel it is their God given right to carry around an Air of High and Mighty..........

      Shouldn't there be "DEMOCRACY" in Each Family?

      Are Parents responsible for creating this attitude in their OLDEST Offspring? (or the OLDEST OFFBRING)...

      am I the only one who noticed this or are ALL Gupland residents ..........
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      i'm the oldest child in my family and i don't think i have a chip on my shoulder and i hope i'm right in saying i that i'm not arrogant. So maybe it's just the people you'v come across??

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      i am a middle child so I guess I am allright

      i have however observed many first borns having a very domineering attitude but at the same time the last one in the family is usually spoilt.

      ppl should only have middle children.
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      whiners...................



      "If you're gonna be two-faced at least make one of them pretty."


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      Quote Originally Posted by X2 View Post
      i am a middle child so I guess I am allright

      i have however observed many first borns having a very domineering attitude but at the same time the last one in the family is usually spoilt.

      ppl should only have middle children.

      Exactly.............:biggthumb

      I hated it when the Oldest and the Youngest would Gang Up..........

      Parents always using 'Flowery' Language and praise the Oldest as their pride and Joy...............

      And spoiling the youngest.................OOOh their are the Baby.........needs special consideration................


      Have not noticed to much of this amoung Girls........mostly Boys!

      and in my opinion Moms are to blame.........

      Out their own insecurity.........they exhibit this unjust treatment!
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      Quote Originally Posted by SindSagar View Post

      Have not noticed to much of this amoung Girls........mostly Boys!

      U 've obviously NOT been paying attention............

      "If you're gonna be two-faced at least make one of them pretty."


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      Quote Originally Posted by sheyn View Post
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      Oh Oldest one................so you got preferential treatment from your Mom or Dad or Both?

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      Much depends on family history too methinks....my hub and I are both middle children and so have somewhat more empathy to the whole issue for our middle son. Our eldest gets the most attention hands down cause he has issues that demand special attention. But we do our best to make up for that with the other 2. And most of all, we try to make sure all 3 know how very much they are each loved and cherished for the special little people they are. They know - eldest is our "Sunshine". Middle is our "Treasure". And youngest is our "Baby Mine". They'll ask about that sometimes just to confirm - "mama am I your treasure?" or "Daddy am I your Baby Mine?" Hopefully, they all know that they are each different but each loved endlessly in their own way - and INshallah will avoid the eldest syndrome or middle child syndrome or youngest-spoiled syndrome!

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      Quote Originally Posted by SindSagar View Post
      Oh Oldest one................so you got preferential treatment from your Mom or Dad or Both?

      Both...........


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      Jokes aside though ........i think the "arrogance" & "need to excel" stems more from the fact that being the eldest U get ALL the attention and r the "centre of the universe" so to speak and then the second , third ...etc come along ................and attention gets divided .....
      and to counteract this parents overindulge the eldest.............

      errrrr just a theory.......


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      I dont think oldest children are like that.

      Im the oldest and I despise being oldest cause my brother used to get away with everything and I used to get blamed for it.

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      I am very much an oldest child and I do think that we have a certain style to us. However, I'm not sure that I understand your point completely...I'll address it in parts.

      Quote Originally Posted by SindSagar View Post
      "ARROGANCE",
      Definitely, but that is because we're the best.
      and always carrying a Chip on their shoulder
      I'm not sure what you mean by this. I don't think it connects with the arrogance. Is this a separate point about how they are always resentful? I do feel that oldest children often feel an over-inflated sense of familial responsibility and feel the need to take on everything to themselves, which may make them seem bitter, resentful, and bossy, because they feel no one else takes things as seriously as they do. It's not correct, but it requires a certain degree of self-awareness to understand that. At young ages, we don't have that.
      "Mega attitude"[/I] Oldest children[/COLOR] seem to have?[/COLOR][/B]
      What kind of attitude do you mean?

      I have a few questions to ask all the Oldest Children that feel it is their God given right to carry around an Air of High and Mighty..........[/COLOR]
      Yes, at times I think most of us do. But it's not always there, and I think it depends on the context. It also relates to what I mentioned above, their sense that they are the only ones who are taking responsibility and have the necessary knowledge. I don't know why they feel that way; they just do.
      I]Shouldn't there be "[/I]DEMOCRACY" [/COLOR]in Each Family?
      What does that have to do with the oldest children?

      Are Parents responsible for creating this attitude in their OLDEST Offspring? (or the [/COLOR]OLDEST OFFBRING)...[/COLOR]
      Definitely. I think they often listen to the oldest too much or they are themselves quite young when they have the child so they don't completely know what they're doing and the child doesn't take them completely seriously as authority figures. I also think that in my case, I felt that I knew way more about life in America and growing up here than my parents did as immigrants, so I took on an air of authority.

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      I'm the oldest but I always felt my parents preferred my younger brother.
      I don't think I'm arrogant either, I just know how good I am ^.^

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      I'm the oldest in my immediate family as well as amongst my cousins...and I am totally not like what you described. I think I was too busy being responsible to find time to be arrogant or chip on my shoulder. Hmmm perhaps I did not really take advantage of my position then??

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      I am the oldest, and I love it!
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      I'm the oldest child living in the house right now and boy is it a lot of responsibility..! It's not necessarily an air of arrogance that we have about ourselves, its just that we need to have some sort of authority or "robe" to make the younger ones listen to us and respect us. I think its harder to be the oldest (or elder) sibling because theres a lot of pressure to set the right example and to balance being a siblign and second-parent almost in a way...
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      Its not arrogance... its just the fact that the eldest is put in situations and have greater experience in most fields... like if an Aunty rings, and Mum's not home, I am always given the phone, so I have more confidence in talking to elders coz its always come down to me...

      being the eldest means youv'e expereinced life a tad bit more then your siblings and hence at times, parents may consider our suggestions more seriously then that of others.

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      I disagree.. the oldest is the most responsible,with alot of weight to carry on their shoulders. They mature the fastest and always make sacrifices for the younger siblings. Im the youngest and I can say that my oldest brother had to see/witness that I am lucky enough to be born at a time where i dont have to.

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