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      Nikah nama is sort of a registration for state and not required by any Islamic sect, meaning you can be husband and wife for all your life without nikah nama. So strictly speaking from the Islamic point of view, what's written on Nikah nama is irrelevant.

      In Sunni sect, Talaq occurs only when husband says or writes or tell a friend to tell his wife or any other way but it only occurs when husband says it 3 times. Wife can request for KHULA in Islamic shariya council and if allowed by that council, the Mufti or Qazi can nullify that nikah.

      Also understand this, Talaq is the only permitted right for men that Allah Tallah dislikes the most.

      I am so surprised to read most of the comments on this topic. I think we are very near the Qayamat because a simple issue like Talaq is misunderstood by Muslims. and BTW, Issue of Talaq is defined very clearly and in details in Quran itself so any Hadis on this can be ignored if it suggests anything other than what Quran has ordered.

      For more information, go to askimam.com to do your own research on this and many more issues.

      Only Gr8Heera got this rite.

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      Last edited by PakiAmerican; Feb 3rd, 2009 at 11:55 AM.

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      Quote Originally Posted by PakiAmerican View Post

      I am so surprised to read most of the comments on this topic. I think we are very near the Qayamat because a simple issue like Talaq is misunderstood by Muslims. and BTW, Issue of Talaq is defined very clearly and in details in Quran itself so any Hadis on this can be ignored if it suggests anything other than what Quran has ordered.

      For more information, go to askimam.com to do your own research on this and many more issues.

      Only Gr8Heera got this rite.

      Regards
      I agree with you so many issues are misunderstood by muslims these days, and thats not just Talaaq

      personally if the wife *really* wants a divorce and I was in her shoes I wouldn't really give a care abt nikkah namma, I would go fatwa shopping, find the one that suited me and give the misbehaving husband the boot - to hell with doing the right thing esp. when you get the culturally challenged maulanas talking

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      Quote Originally Posted by Kenjifu View Post
      I agree with you so many issues are misunderstood by muslims these days, and thats not just Talaaq

      personally if the wife *really* wants a divorce and I was in her shoes I wouldn't really give a crap abt nikkah namma, I would go fatwa shopping, find the one that suited me and give the misbehaving husband the boot - to hell with doing the right thing esp. when you get the culturally challenged maulanas talking
      You are funny and rite on the money dear. You do agree that Talaq is done ONLY when man says it 3 times...rite ?

      Regards

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      Quote Originally Posted by PakiAmerican View Post
      You are funny and rite on the money dear. You do agree that Talaq is done ONLY when man says it 3 times...rite ?

      Regards
      If I knew he was cheating on me I would shoot him in the foot before he got to say talaaq the second time

      in fact my dear, all that would come out of his mouth would be

      "TaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH"

      on the money don't you think?

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      Quote Originally Posted by PakiAmerican View Post
      Nikah nama is sort of a registration for state and not required by any Islamic sect, meaning you can be husband and wife for all your life without nikah nama. So strictly speaking from the Islamic point of view, what's written on Nikah nama is irrelevant.

      In Sunni sect, Talaq occurs only when husband says or writes or tell a friend to tell his wife or any other way but it only occurs when husband says it 3 times. Wife can request for KHULA in Islamic shariya council and if allowed by that council, the Mufti or Qazi can nullify that nikah.

      Also understand this, Talaq is the only permitted right for men that Allah Tallah dislikes the most.

      I am so surprised to read most of the comments on this topic. I think we are very near the Qayamat because a simple issue like Talaq is misunderstood by Muslims. and BTW, Issue of Talaq is defined very clearly and in details in Quran itself so any Hadis on this can be ignored if it suggests anything other than what Quran has ordered.

      For more information, go to askimam.com to do your own research on this and many more issues.

      Only Gr8Heera got this rite.

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      Agree what you said. So true.

      But ppl don't understand and don't know how to tell.

      As far as I know husband has to say talaq even lady ask for khula if husband says talaq then she gets talaq or khula otherwise not.

      What ppl or sharia law made is not the way. If husband doesn't say talaq then she is still mankooha of that person.

      Thanks for saying that I'm right.

      Talaq 3 baar mazaq main bhi kehnay say ho jati hai.

      Aik hadees ya kuch parha tha main nain jis main shayad koi khaleefa thay unkay paas aik shaksh aya kaha main nain 3 talaq daydi hain. Kahleefa nain usko khoob peeta aur kaha talaq ho gai.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Gr8Heera View Post
      Agree what you said. So true.

      But ppl don't understand and don't know how to tell.

      As far as I know husband has to say talaq even lady ask for khula if husband says talaq then she gets talaq or khula otherwise not.

      What ppl or sharia law made is not the way. If husband doesn't say talaq then she is still mankooha of that person.

      Thanks for saying that I'm right.

      Talaq 3 baar mazaq main bhi kehnay say ho jati hai.

      Aik hadees ya kuch parha tha main nain jis main shayad koi khaleefa thay unkay paas aik shaksh aya kaha main nain 3 talaq daydi hain. Kahleefa nain usko khoob peeta aur kaha talaq ho gai.
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      In the case of KHULA, you are 100% correct that husband still has to say TALAQ 3 time for it to be TALAQ but if for some reason husband doesn't say it, then Islamic shariya council and Qazi saab has the authority to nullify that nikah and make the Talaq. And you are rite again, if a husband even says it in a joke or in an anger, it is Talaq no matter how you justify it later. Only exception is if husband is 'Pagal', mentally ill, then it doesn't happen.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Kenjifu View Post
      If I knew he was cheating on me I would shoot him in the foot before he got to say talaaq the second time

      in fact my dear, all that would come out of his mouth would be

      "TaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH"

      on the money don't you think?
      and your still funny and rite on the money ji.

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      Quote Originally Posted by PakiAmerican View Post
      and your still funny and rite on the money ji.

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      I hate to disappoint you but I wasn't trying

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      Quote Originally Posted by Kenjifu View Post
      If I knew he was cheating on me I would shoot him in the foot before he got to say talaaq the second time

      in fact my dear, all that would come out of his mouth would be

      "TaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH"

      on the money don't you think?
      Kahna asan hai karna mushkil.

      Doctors larkiaan bhi reh raheen hain cheaters oar doosri shadi kar lenay kay baad.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Gr8Heera View Post
      Kahna asan hai karna mushkil.

      Doctors larkiaan bhi reh raheen hain cheaters oar doosri shadi kar lenay kay baad.
      so in essence you are saying if the man I married decided to do the 'hurdy gurdy' on the sly I would let him off the hook?

      I think you need to have a heart to heart with my husband :-)

      as for those who stay with a cheating spouse, and the same could be said for some men who stay with unfaithful wives they simply do not have the strength to get up and walk away

      (thats why they are called victims)

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      Quote Originally Posted by Kenjifu View Post
      so in essence you are saying if the man I married decided to do the 'hurdy gurdy' on the sly I would let him off the hook?

      I think you need to have a heart to heart with my husband :-)

      as for those who stay with a cheating spouse, and the same could be said for some men who stay with unfaithful wives they simply do not have the strength to get up and walk away

      (thats why they are called victims)
      No I'm not saying that let him go off the hook.

      I didn't understand your second line.

      Yeah sometimes no strength and sometimes for the sake of child and sometimes for society ki toba tillah and many other things.

      Ladies main kum hi himmat hoti hai. Himmat bhi wo hi kar pateen hain jo khudgharz hoteen hain aur sirf apni khushi aur apna mafaad daikhteen hain buchchon ka naheen. Wo bhi wo us waqt karti hain jub unkay pass job hoti hai aur kamati hain to warna kon poora karay ga unka sub kuch. Parents aur bhai bahan hamaisha naheen poochtay aur jin main himmat hota hai akelay rehnay ka.

      Bohat si batain hoti hain. Agar larki shohar ki mohabbat main giraftar ho to bhi naheen chorna chahti. Khud ghurz aurtain husbands say mohabbat naheen karteen.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Kenjifu View Post
      so in essence you are saying if the man I married decided to do the 'hurdy gurdy' on the sly I would let him off the hook?

      I think you need to have a heart to heart with my husband :-)

      as for those who stay with a cheating spouse, and the same could be said for some men who stay with unfaithful wives they simply do not have the strength to get up and walk away

      (thats why they are called victims)
      Wasn't this thread about Talaq? how did this cheating husband or wife come in the picture ?
      Kenjifu, what are you talking about ? we were discussing about who has a right to divorce....rite ?

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      Quote Originally Posted by PakiAmerican View Post
      Wasn't this thread about Talaq? how did this cheating husband or wife come in the picture ?
      Kenjifu, what are you talking about ? we were discussing about who has a right to divorce....rite ?

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      of course and then someone mentioned that its not easy to leave a cheater

      to which I simply responded by saying its all too easy

      are you saying its off topic to say that there are women out there who would take the smoothest quickest route out of relationship that was damaging to them and thereby they just forgo the whole 3 talaaq thing - you know there are better things in life than to wait around for a man to say the magic word three times

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      Quote Originally Posted by Gr8Heera View Post
      No I'm not saying that let him go off the hook.

      I didn't understand your second line.

      Yeah sometimes no strength and sometimes for the sake of child and sometimes for society ki toba tillah and many other things.

      Ladies main kum hi himmat hoti hai. Himmat bhi wo hi kar pateen hain jo khudgharz hoteen hain aur sirf apni khushi aur apna mafaad daikhteen hain buchchon ka naheen. Wo bhi wo us waqt karti hain jub unkay pass job hoti hai aur kamati hain to warna kon poora karay ga unka sub kuch. Parents aur bhai bahan hamaisha naheen poochtay aur jin main himmat hota hai akelay rehnay ka.

      Bohat si batain hoti hain. Agar larki shohar ki mohabbat main giraftar ho to bhi naheen chorna chahti. Khud ghurz aurtain husbands say mohabbat naheen karteen.

      I'm really sorry we don't see through the same lens but I guess that's the difference

      Where I come from if a man cheats or does anything to hurt her the father, brother or uncle will be the first in there to get her out, it depends on the society you come from I suppose, and its just sad that pakistanis in general aren't on the lookout to help such women

      as for their children - do you honestly think its better for them to grow up knowing there father is cheating on their mother? I know a situation and the woman was in such depression that the kids were going nuts

      Its not right. Its not fair. It happens. But we need to fight it and help these people, not sit back and accept it, we need to change this attitude people take in our culture of hiding behind closed doors, we need to start asking people how their marriages are working even after the wedding and walima


      ALSO, by a heart to heart I didnt mean anything naughty simply that my husband knows me best and he also knows that I would never take any form of cheating - and I do love him but that wont stop me from walking away the moment he has broken my trust

      if there is not trust then what exactly are you trying to save in a marriage?

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      Quote Originally Posted by Kenjifu View Post
      of course and then someone mentioned that its not easy to leave a cheater

      to which I simply responded by saying its all too easy

      are you saying its off topic to say that there are women out there who would take the smoothest quickest route out of relationship that was damaging to them and thereby they just forgo the whole 3 talaaq thing - you know there are better things in life than to wait around for a man to say the magic word three times
      I stand correct, you are funny...LOL

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      Quote Originally Posted by PakiAmerican View Post
      I stand correct, you are funny...LOL

      let me correct you again then because I am not joking

      I'm serious

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      Quote Originally Posted by Kenjifu View Post
      I'm really sorry we don't see through the same lens but I guess that's the difference

      Where I come from if a man cheats or does anything to hurt her the father, brother or uncle will be the first in there to get her out, it depends on the society you come from I suppose, and its just sad that pakistanis in general aren't on the lookout to help such women

      as for their children - do you honestly think its better for them to grow up knowing there father is cheating on their mother? I know a situation and the woman was in such depression that the kids were going nuts

      Its not right. Its not fair. It happens. But we need to fight it and help these people, not sit back and accept it, we need to change this attitude people take in our culture of hiding behind closed doors, we need to start asking people how their marriages are working even after the wedding and walima


      ALSO, by a heart to heart I didnt mean anything naughty simply that my husband knows me best and he also knows that I would never take any form of cheating - and I do love him but that wont stop me from walking away the moment he has broken my trust

      if there is not trust then what exactly are you trying to save in a marriage?
      I agree with you. Just out of curiosity, if your husband cheats and u decide to walk, would your children make you week? knowing they need both of their parents together....If you do walk, wouldn't this be selfish on your part?

      Regards

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