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      Quote Originally Posted by Reha View Post
      What the...? Marry within their own kind? Are you alright? Sometimes, when I feel like Ive seen and heard it all...people like you surprise me with even weirder things. Do you know how ridiculous and backward you sound?

      What exactly is their own kind? They should come stamped with a letter D on their foreheads and only marry those also stamped with the same?

      I dont know about your society but Ive never heard of such nonsense in mine.
      My comments are based on my experiences in the arranged settings.. Plz have a look at my comments I made above... Nothing personal about divorced guys and girls... Its just the fear of the known which I have marrying even never married guys... marrying a divorced guy adds to this fear of mine as I do not tend to trust the story of any "innocent" divoced guy unless I also hear the other side of the story which is almost impossible in an arranged setting...

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      a storm in a tea cup!


      guys, please get rid of this attitude of bashing other if their opinion is not in consonance with yours, one thing. Second, Ashy may not have been able to state her POV clearly but i think I guess what she means. Ofcourse there are so many matters and factors to be brought under consideration when it comes to this life long commitment and pact we call marriage. So naturally there are fears. They have to be, of the unknown. Obviously if you are listening to one side of the story that is not sufficient. You have to marry, you do, what I wanted to stress here is, manytimes divorcees are not guilty. They only have to pay for others' faults. Like many mothers marry their spoiled sons expecting they will reform after marriage and when it doesnt happen it ruins the life of the larki completely. Her experience of marriage turns out as a failure but where to blame her? And then she will think hundred times before taking divorce as to how her future life is going to be. How society is going to treat her and whether there are any options or not. And this is because this is how our society moves.


      DO NOT MARRY SOMEONE FOR CHARITY"S SAKE, fine? my few brotherom here have this misunderstanding right from the beginning that Im running a charity programme here which Im not.

      Again, everyone wants to go for a virgin male/female, their choice. There are standards always we cannot impose ours on others. What I intended here was to point out the way divorced and widows are treated in our society. They lose their status because society is taking it away from them and who are the society? WE. so maybe we need to widen our minds a bit.

      Baqi shadi koi sawab keliye to karta nahi na hi kare baraye meherbani. Its not the sawab only. Maybe few widows and divorced could be much much better then your virgin choices because maybe they would take life and relationships more seriously because its their second chance AND in this sense you are better off than marrying a (maybe only supposed) virgin which is going to let you pay for marrying her all life. Period.
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      I do agree with all you said. The only thing I took issue with was when you branded marrying a divorcee as the means to a meaningful existence, which makes it sound like charity.

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      Quote Originally Posted by rizla86 View Post
      I do agree with all you said. The only thing I took issue with was when you branded marrying a divorcee as the means to a meaningful existence, which makes it sound like charity.

      brotherom, maybe it sounded like that to you, my apology. peace?
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      Peace, sisterom.

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      Let the Sea be my mother, and the Moon my father;
      I will swim with the mermaids forever thereafter....

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      The thing is...regardless of whether the person looking to get married is divorced or not...there is absolutely no way of knowing how things are going to turn out UNTIL you get married. Sure you can analyze and ask around and do your research into the person, but at the end of the day, only Allah SWT knows what's in another person's heart. And just because a person's never been married doesn't mean he/she doesn't come with baggage. In fact, we all have our baggage. We all come into a relationship - regardless of whether it's the first or second - with past traumas, hurts, upheavals, etc. that have probably messed with our heads in one way or another and give us the quirks that make each of unique.

      So regardless of someone's past, keep an open mind. Pray istikhara and then take your chances. That's all any of us can do in the end.
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      Unmarried people may be going through the rishta process in an arranged setting but what does that mean? Nothing. They could be dating...its all too common now anywhere in the world.

      Divorces happen because two people that were paired together...were not a good match for each other. It really is as simple as that. They were not a good match...he wanted something else and she wanted something else. Qissa khatam.

      You can dwell on whether he is innocent and he can dwell on whether you are telling the truth about your past...because he has no way of knowing otherwise. OR you can meet the family and guy to see if they are the kind of people you would want to associate with.

      I prefer divorced men because they have less of the above issues to deal with...less problems...less insecurities...its so much more straightforward and to the point.

      I guess I have limited patience for drama.
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      People need to know themselves first before getting married, regardless if you are single/divorced/widowed.

      You'll be surprised how many people aren't self-aware.
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      ^ much agree
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      My fiance is a divorcee as well, and I am marrying her because she's hot. J/k, she's pretty damn smart as well.
      Parents were okay with the rishta, but some of my relatives are definitely not okay with it.

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      if he was the right person for me, i would marry him, whether he is a widow, divorcee or never married.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Nina85 View Post
      if he was the right person for me, i would marry him, whether he is a widow, divorcee or never married.
      I like your mentality.

      The prophet encouraged the men to marry widows and divorcees before marrying the single women. It's funny my uncle got married in April last year to a divorced woman. Some family members were not happy but he's a good man....

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      Quote Originally Posted by CEO1 View Post
      The prophet encouraged the men to marry widows and divorcees before marrying the single women.
      For a second wife I think.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Nina85 View Post
      if he was the right person for me, i would marry him, whether he is a widow, divorcee or never married.
      Same here..

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      Quote Originally Posted by mirage View Post
      I might sound idealistic here, but I feel such people could be better life partners because maybe they have learned such lessons from life it takes time and heavy toll to. .
      i totally agree with you here. divorce isn't very common in my family but my cousin did marry a divorced girl with a child and she is a very nice lady and it looks like they are happily married but i see him as being a lot more open minded than i did before after he fell in love with her. It makes me feel a bit better that divorcees and widows in south asia aren't seen in that negative way as they used to be seen, they are seen as strong survivors, hopefully.
      Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. 8:7

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      My uncle married a divorcee. AND all I can say she is a really awesome person. Unlike some other aunts of mine.

      Personally, I don't see anything bad about it just a shame culture dictates that its bad or should be avoided.
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