wedding gifts - Page 3

somegroovychick · Apr 24th, 2007, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Muzna

If only all things in life were that simple.

When we are young, we usually choose who we hang out with.

We get a little older and we are forced to hang with the folks that our parents choose.....all part of getting hooked up in the right place according to them.

We get married and have to compromise who we hang out with because now we have a whole new dynamic involved -- the in-laws.

We end up having to socialize with hubby's friends....he tolerates our friend's partners, even though he may not share interests with them and we put up with his friend's partners, even if she only has a couple of brain cells at her disposal.'

The we have kids and again are forced to select a group of people to hang with that are suitable for the environment we want our kids exposed to.

So you see...it's not as easy to completely surround yourself with only those that you "like" or "get along with".

I like the western approach where you are expected to pay for your plate, this sum could vary depending on the venue/menu/open bar etc., and then some. So if the party is held at a very posh location with a full out menu and open bar and you are invited as a couple, then you should be bringing a cash gift of around $250 - $350. This is then collected in a box, so nobody is embarassed by taking the envelope in their hand, and at the end, I believe the cost of the wedding is deducted by those that paid for it and the balance is handed off to the couple.

perhaps... i dont have kids yet so i can't comment on that portion, but i do socialise with andrew's friends/family and he socialise's with mine, and maybe we're just lucky but we haven't yet come across people that we dislike but HAVE to hang out with anyway. if theres someone we mutually dislike, we usually stop seeing them, and thankfully family-wise, this isn't much of an issue, so its really only "friends" like that.

in the end, i think that you absolutely have final say in whom you really treat as a friend and with whom you build a relationship, regardless of whether they're part of your family or are your friends. if you truly don't get along with someone, to force yourself to keep up appearances can get pretty exhausting, even if they are part of your familiy or your in-laws.

and yeah, i like the western approach too to gifting money at weddings too, but it ends up being pretty expensive so i highly doubt that people you're not close to will end up gifting that huge an amount.

somegroovychick · Apr 24th, 2007, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Amani06

Ive got it and i LOVE IT!!! The red kitchenaid mixer is GORGEOUS. I know a very bizarre birthday prezzie choice but i really wanted it and hubz was gonna get me sum fancy jewellery and i was like sod that i want a red Kitchenaid. Its fantastic and my favourite kitchen toy!

oh i'm jealous!! i love baking and everytime i have to use that darned hand mixer, i think, damnnnn, wheres my kitchenaid?? have you seen the yellow one? its a gorgeous color too.

Amani06 · Apr 24th, 2007, 01:02 PM

Trust me i just need an excuse to use it! Its fantastic-honestly u get what u pay for. Its solid and u know it'll last a lifetime. The yellow one is funky. They've got so many cool colours but i wanted the red one. The lilac one is pretty and ive seen one in pink as well. Defo put on ur wedding gift list and if u dont get it then, defo get it after!

Ira · Apr 24th, 2007, 01:57 PM

Hmmm Amani isnt it a pain to use it? I havent obviously used mine yet but for some reason i feel like its gonna be a drag to take it out, wash it etc.

somegroovychick · Apr 24th, 2007, 02:03 PM

but think of all the lovely things you could make with it!

Sara516 · Apr 24th, 2007, 02:04 PM

cant wait til i start buying stuff for my home

somegroovychick · Apr 24th, 2007, 02:09 PM

might i suggest the kitchenaid stand mixer?

lublyjubly · Apr 24th, 2007, 02:31 PM

i don't know what it is, but i want one!!!

As for giving gifts, i'm like SGC: if i like you, i'll hang out with you and with joy and happiness will give you beautiful gifts/money! if i don't like or have nothing in common with you then i won't hang out with you so logically won't go to your wedding or get you gifts.. i thought that was the concept of friends and non-friends!!!

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chanel1122 · Apr 24th, 2007, 03:42 PM

In our Family there is concept of giving money instead of these items .....
Saved ..lolzzz

Ira · Apr 24th, 2007, 04:07 PM

You know what i am gonna derail my own thread but who cares?

SGC, have you used KitchenAid's blender? OMG, i am big on smoothies, shakes, etc and let me tell you, nothing comes close to crushing frozen fruit/ice etc, when you have a kitchenAid. I mean, i could rave all day about that thing. i absolutely LOVE it.

Gemini the Great · Apr 24th, 2007, 04:39 PM

whattttt.. NO BOXED GIFTs?!?! now that screws up my plan to give you all the picture frames taht I have been given as a gift for past 6 years and are of no use to me!!

by the way, Sehar and Chipsy, I did some more search online regarding CA's gift and found that cookware set for $12.99 at walgreens.. haha gosh I used to be bored in those days

somegroovychick · Apr 24th, 2007, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Ira

You know what i am gonna derail my own thread but who cares?

SGC, have you used KitchenAid's blender? OMG, i am big on smoothies, shakes, etc and let me tell you, nothing comes close to crushing frozen fruit/ice etc, when you have a kitchenAid. I mean, i could rave all day about that thing. i absolutely LOVE it.

no, i dont own anything kitchenaid at the moment, sadly... BUT i saw it in canadian tire this past weekend and i LOOOOOOVED it! oh man, my whole kitchen is gonna be kitchenaid, i've promised myself that! plus my mom bought me gourmet cookware and the whole set of 10 pots/pans is red so looks like she was thinking of my red stand mixer while she was buying it.. hrmm.. have i dropped enough hints? ALSO im planning on doing a part-time pastry chef course in the fall so really, i have to have it. haha no question about that!

holy crap, gemini, not only was it from walgreens but it was also 12.99?!!! wow. big spender, eh?

Mrs Saieen · Apr 24th, 2007, 08:15 PM

SGC, why don't you buy the kitchenaid thing? make it as part of your jahez

somegroovychick · Apr 24th, 2007, 10:15 PM

its $400 plus tax...

but yes, i plan to guilt my mother into buying it for me! hahaha

Ira · Apr 24th, 2007, 10:37 PM

Macy's has some nice sales going on all the time. These days they have a Cuisinart cookware set that i am in love with and have my eye on. Would love to get that. I cannot believe i have stopped looking at jewelery catalogues adn moved on to home editions

BUT, the kitchenaid thing is so not on sale! So i guess it never goes on sale and you may have to chuck out some salamees to buy it.

And becuz i love Gia and adore her to death, for her i make an exception. She is allowed to bring a boxed gift. I am sooo very excited to see her so i dont care if she brings a hathi in the box