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      hello girls

      does anyone know where i can find a copy of a nikah naama (so i know what info is required)?? is it a fixed form or are there multiple variations? where do i get it from...the local musjid or imam or print it out from somewhere?? does it have clauses you can add or delete or amend? i've heard there is a part that parties "cross out" in pakistan?? i'm so unfamiliar with what it involves and would appreciate help from all you married/nikah-fied people .


      what are some things i should include and be aware of? is it kind of like a prenuptial? what is the amount of "reasonable" haq mehr to be asked for in the US or Canada? do i turn in this form along with my marriage certificate to be officially married??


      eeeeeeeek..sorry i have so many questions! i'm totally clueless and need help . i tried searching online, but didn't find anything legit so i thought i'd turn to my fellow gupshuppies and ask for your first hand advice.


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      help me pretty please

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      what i know is they cut the part in which they gave the right of divorce to women also.
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      erm i dunno

      my wedding was in pak and i guess the maulvi or my mamy brought nikah nama from somewhere .

      and there were all kind of categories on the form

      like the right for me to give divorce which was neither crossed or ticked

      also if the women was virgin . widowed or divorced

      name of witnesses n etc.

      i dont evn knw if this answers ur question

      sorry lolz
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      i got married and my nikkah form which i signed was with the imam
      the imam has the nikkah book which has everybody else marriage certificate that live in the same area as the imam he then later gets it stamped to show its a true copy and gives u 2 of the 4 papers and leaves 2 in the book
      so u have 2 sign 4 papers

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      well nabz, wen n' where are u gettin married.? cz in Pakistan u don't have to worry abt it, ur mamu, chacha, may b father... i mean the close family members they bring the naka nama to the dulhan n' shez jus suppose to sign the form other things depends... ain't the ladkay walay suppose to fix the amount of the mehar..?
      sorry i guess even im not sure if i've givn the clear ans to what u asked
      hope ds lil info helps, lol

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      i'm getting married in the US, Inshallah...so its not as simple as Pakistan I guess . The haq mehr...I though the amount was to be decided by both parties? Does anyone know the norm for the US and Canada? I only know of one my friends...her father wanted it to be higher because of unfortunate experience with the 2 elder daughters (both are divorced and living back at home) so they set it at $21K, BUT ghair muajal (so its deferred).

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      Imam should have it..

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      Last edited by yourfriend; Jan 31st, 2008 at 05:00 PM.
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      Go to this thread .. Shikra posted the images in post #4.

      It has the part where they gave the right of divorce to woman

      http://www.paklinks.com/gs/showthread.php?t=168381 (Nikah-nama .. the original document)
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      yourfriend- the link doesn't work.

      tlk- thanks. but i'm looking for the english version used in the states. my urdu skills aren't up to par

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      check now
      Majbori ka dosra naam 'Shukriya'

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      thanks

      any info on haq mehr guys?

      anyone??

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      what would u like to know about mehr?...there is this thread in religion section about mehr.... if that helps?

      http://www.paklinks.com/gs/showthread.php?t=275262 (Mehr)
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      There are two types ... if I write that in english ... they will spell almost the same but let me try

      1. Mo'ajjal >> this one is like a gift that dulha should give right away, maybe on first night ... amount is on mutual consent

      2. Mowajjal >> this is in case of divorce ...

      Both amounts should be determined and agreed upon by both parties ..

      it should not be so high that Dulha gets bankrupt, should not be so low that its an insult to the lady...


      In USA or Canda (or in Pakistan)... I would say .. in ufortunate event of dicorce .. something that you can live for 6-8 months without too much sacrificing on your current life style
      My father believed that if the world found out who I really was they'd reject me out of fear.