Wedding planning checklist

jalebi121 · Nov 19th, 2008, 02:04 PM

I've pretty much been through all the threads on GS. Whenever I see a new idea, I just paste it into "shaadi.doc". So now I have this list, which I think covers every subject posted in the wedding forum. Tell me if I've missed anything.

Prewedding

Wedding ring
Invitations-style/wording/decide where to order from
Eat well/workout so you look radiant.
Skin treatments if needed.
Manicure/Pedicure
Dental cleaning
Gifts for in-laws
if it's your friend's wedding, practice a mehndi song for her. she'll be happy even if u jump around like a bandar.
Spanx
Lingerie aka 'nyt wearrr' on GS
Brazilian...
Decide if nikah separate or as part of the shaadi.
Imam for Nikah.
Non-ugly Pen for Nikah (lol)
Accomodation for Guests
Organize airport pickups/dropoffs
maybe..contraception

Mehndi Planning

Guest List
Venue
Date
Mehndi Artists
Mehndi Theme (if any)
Menu/Caterer/Maybe Homecooked food?
Stage Decoration
Outfit
Shoes
Purse
Makeup (can be done by yourself for mehndi)
Hairstyle
Mithai
Photographer
Videographer
Thaals
Dholak
Song List on computer/CD
Printed lyrics in Roman Urdu if needed
extra: jhula
extra: paranda

Wedding

Guest List
Bridal Lengha-color/style/designer
Shoes
Purse
Jewellery
Makeup Artist
Hair-stylist/design/remember u have to wash it out at nite
Venue-hotel, field with tents, garden, big backyard, etc
Menu-does hotel allow outside food?/presentation: servers or buffet?
Wedding Cake
Wedding Table Decorations
Photographer
Videographer
Entrance Song (or bagpipes/flute/dhol)
Petals (sometimes thrown when bride enters)
Car or Limo to Hotel
Hotel
extra: dhol player
extra: wedding favors
extra: bhangra dancers
extra: DJ

Walima

Guest List
Walima outfit-color/style/designer
Shoes
Purse
Jewellery
Makeup Artist
Hairstylist
Venue
Menu
Stage
Table Decorations
Table Placecards
Photographer
Videographer
Getaway car

Not necessary but some extra functions people do.

Dholki-idk what the diff is between this and mehndi..
Mayoun-when ppl put yellow stuff (ubtan) on your face.
Maklawa-Idk much about this; apparently it's a sleepover at the bride's house.
Honeymoon (destination/airfare/hotel/car/activities).

Another thing which is not really a function, but it's a good idea. If a lot of the guests are travelling from far away, you can host a very casual breakfast on the first floor of the hotel everyone is staying at. We went to a shaadi where they did this; everyone was in their American clothes getting ready for the airport, and it gave us a chance to all meet and say bye before leaving.

This better not become a thread about how marriages are so ostentatious and everyone needs to get married in a courthouse in their pajamas. pshhhh...some are...but people can pick and choose the elements they like.

rabia3983 · Nov 19th, 2008, 07:14 PM

this is a really good list, i printed it out and will be using it to.
I thght of hiring a wedding planner but thn gave up that thgt...where is the fun in that right?? so this type of list and a binder with everything else printed from gs will be so helpful
thank u all

MiamisweetheartX · Nov 19th, 2008, 09:13 PM

i would love to plan everything the way you guys are but unfortunately i have this thing where if things dont turn out my way i get really angry. I got engaged within two weeks and went completely BRIDEZILLA the second i stepped into the venue everything seemed so out of place. table decorations, all the things we had to give to the in-laws the stage ..you name it and i found something wrong (other then the food which was reallly good tht day). I hated it cause i had bothered everyone for weeks even after my engagment about how much i hated it, even till this day i refuse to wear anything i wore on my engagment days including jewlery....so imagine tht was just the engagment if i plan for the wedding and things dont go my way im going to regret for the rest of my life. thats why i prefer not to plan and let things go with the flow...maybe i wount be as annoyed as i was with my engagment. Obviously there are something you do plan on, im not saying im not gonna plan at all things like the venue will be decided by my parents and chacha , im just going to approve. Ill go to try the food. For my flowers, my friends going to do them i just gave her the colors and my dress has already been ordered.
so lets see how thigns go . i dont wanna dream to big and then go crazy the night of my wedding. Inshallah everything will go well. those of you who get married before me pray for me !!!!

rabia3983 · Nov 20th, 2008, 07:54 AM

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Originally Posted by MiamisweetheartX

i would love to plan everything the way you guys are but unfortunately i have this thing where if things dont turn out my way i get really angry. I got engaged within two weeks and went completely BRIDEZILLA the second i stepped into the venue everything seemed so out of place. table decorations, all the things we had to give to the in-laws the stage ..you name it and i found something wrong (other then the food which was reallly good tht day). I hated it cause i had bothered everyone for weeks even after my engagment about how much i hated it, even till this day i refuse to wear anything i wore on my engagment days including jewlery....so imagine tht was just the engagment if i plan for the wedding and things dont go my way im going to regret for the rest of my life. thats why i prefer not to plan and let things go with the flow...maybe i wount be as annoyed as i was with my engagment. Obviously there are something you do plan on, im not saying im not gonna plan at all things like the venue will be decided by my parents and chacha , im just going to approve. Ill go to try the food. For my flowers, my friends going to do them i just gave her the colors and my dress has already been ordered.
so lets see how thigns go . i dont wanna dream to big and then go crazy the night of my wedding. Inshallah everything will go well. those of you who get married before me pray for me !!!!

WOW, i thgh i would be like you too...but i got really lucky cuz one of my cousin in lahore is just like me (at least in planning) and she made sure everything was just perfect at the venue...and now i call her from here almost once a week and talk abt all the new decoration ideas and stuff we have and which once we can use for my wedding and thn hers.

Pareezay · Nov 20th, 2008, 08:19 AM

thats a great list!

BlushingRose · Nov 21st, 2008, 09:32 AM

^I second that

BlushingRose · Nov 21st, 2008, 09:40 AM

Prewedding:

Facials
Massage
Oil hair
Ubtan treatments

Wedding:
Wedding Night Bag
Conditioner to wash that hairdo lol

JenC · Nov 22nd, 2008, 03:34 PM

Top list - most comprehensive & helpful

Gina~ · Nov 22nd, 2008, 03:45 PM

Dont forget a nail polish remover, contact lens case, face cream, hairbrush.. and makeup cleanser/wipes!

BlushingRose · Nov 22nd, 2008, 04:22 PM

^^oh yeah!! for the hair detangling--gina...u hd mentioned it coems out with only conditioner right???????

Gina~ · Nov 22nd, 2008, 04:24 PM

^ Apply conditioner to damp hair..so u don't tug and pull-out too much! And work out all the back-combing using a wide-tooth comb!

Pareezay · Nov 22nd, 2008, 04:37 PM

I used a wide tooth comb for my hair after my wedding. I did not wet my hair or use anything in it because wetting hair makes the tangled hair to fall even more. You can use a bit of oil instead of conditioner. The comb worked perfectly and once my hair was detangled, I washed it like I normally do with shampoo and conditioner. I would have oiled it too (which I did the next day) if I had the time but our reception was in the afternoon so couldn't.

BlushingRose · Nov 23rd, 2008, 01:02 PM

^^ thnxxx guys!

Gina~ · Nov 23rd, 2008, 02:13 PM

It's best to try on u're dresses and check for "lastick" and hooks etc..I get brides that have had problems in the past (lol)

Make sure u have a lipstick and tissues and even a mini-perfume in ure bag.

Remember to apply perfume BEFORE wearing u're clothes so u dont stain them.

Wear u're heels/shoes when u have slightly damp feet..this will stop u from slipping and prevent sores.

Carry cotton-wool in u're overnight bag as well as a nail file!

midnighteyes · Nov 23rd, 2008, 05:49 PM

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Wear u're heels/shoes when u have slightly damp feet..this will stop u from slipping and prevent sores.

Interesting, I never knew that! Gina you're so full of cool tips!!

jalebi121 · Nov 25th, 2008, 10:30 PM

i've worn strappy heels after a shower and my damp feet actually made it hard for my feet to maintain a grip! so i'm not sure about that...as for the other suggestions they are all really good and i will add them to the list. edit: for some reason i can't edit my original post. also i wanted to erase 'practice a dance for your friends' mehndi'--that doesn't make sense because the list is about the dulhan!

jalebi121 · Nov 25th, 2008, 10:31 PM

Gina, you said 'nail polish remover'. Do most dulhans keep real nails these days?

Pareezay · Nov 25th, 2008, 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted by jalebi121

i've worn strappy heels after a shower and my damp feet actually made it hard for my feet to maintain a grip! so i'm not sure about that...as for the other suggestions they are all really good and i will add them to the list. edit: for some reason i can't edit my original post. also i wanted to erase 'practice a dance for your friends' mehndi'--that doesn't make sense because the list is about the dulhan!

You're not able to edit posts after a certain amount of time. Ask one of the mods and we can make any changes you want.

mmkaki · Nov 26th, 2008, 01:04 AM

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Originally Posted by jalebi121

Gina, you said 'nail polish remover'. Do most dulhans keep real nails these days?

yea i didnt had fake nails on my engagement ...n im growing my nails now days for my wedding as i dont want any fake nails they r at times a mess thatz wat ive seen wiv other ppl

ashheavan · Nov 29th, 2008, 07:40 PM

depends on how ur nails are. if der gud and your able to grow them to a nice shape den why nt keep ur real nails. its easier to change nail colour from the wedding day to the walima day!