Wearing my wedding lengha to brother's wedding

hibiscus · Mar 7th, 2009, 08:33 AM

What are your thoughts please? I got married 5 years ago - is it ok to wear my lenngha to my brother's wedding or is it tacky? It is light pink (not colour the bride is wearing) and it's not really heavy so it could pass as a very nice lengha rather than a wedding one.

Also, would it be better to wear it to the Bharat or Walima?

Thanks

uzzybuzzy · Mar 7th, 2009, 09:19 AM

I think its fine as long as you dont put the duputta on your head or try to outdo the bride.

Sweet_LiL_Hunnie · Mar 7th, 2009, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by uzzybuzzy

I think its fine as long as you dont put the duputta on your head or try to outdo the bride.

yup keep your jewelry minimal nothing too heavy and don't feel the need to put your hair in an updo and all should be fine.

Gina~ · Mar 7th, 2009, 10:16 AM

I'd wear it at the baraat.. and keep the jewellery minimal..

yanzala · Mar 7th, 2009, 01:59 PM

i think it would be nice if you ask the dulhan

NJMasti · Mar 7th, 2009, 02:12 PM

^no way jose!

eastern11 · Mar 7th, 2009, 02:33 PM

You can wear it esp if your bhabi is Pakistan born and bred. As there people are happy if you wear your own wedding dres to the wedding. At my own wedding I asked some close friends to wear their wedding lehngas as it shows that the pesron is so close to you and happy that she is wearing a heavier dress than normal. Even my MIl was mad that I didn't wear my valima lehnga to her daughter's (SIL) wedding. However, if your bhabi is westeren bred than she might object as its a western custom of not wearing the same color as the bride and so forth.

Just don't wear your dupptta on your head, tikkas are ok.

Sara516 · Mar 7th, 2009, 08:07 PM

the general rule is to not wear hte same color. Otherwise, keep the hair simple (u can still do an updo if you want), just please please please do not wear hte duputa on ur head! if you do hijab, u can easily find a matching simple scarf and it will be nice. I hate when girls use the exucse of "hijab/pardah" to dress like a dulhan!

Bharysh · Mar 7th, 2009, 08:27 PM

i was going to wear mine. but decided not to when i heard the bride was wearing the same color. its her day to be the best one in the room.

someone suggested to me that to wear your dulhan outfit on the valima....and maybe your valima outfit on the shaadi.

somegroovychick · Mar 7th, 2009, 09:11 PM

^ sounds like a reasonable way of wearing both...
iA i want to wear my shaadi lehenga on my bro's engagement- it was champagne with mostly tone-on-tone kaam so, heavy but not in-your-face, and then my mehendi gharara on his mehendi, a new gharara for his shaadi, and a new sari for his valima. yay!

love your sig line, btw haha

<[Laalten]> · Mar 7th, 2009, 11:18 PM

I got married a year ago, and wore mine to a friend's wedding recently. All her married cousins wore their wedding lehngas as well. Certainly do NOT put the dupatta over your head, if you wear a hijab, go for the lightest shade of hijab that matches with the lehnga. The choice of jewellery really depends on how heavy the dress is. I have seen girls going all out and wearing their bridal sets, so it's a matter of what you yourself are comfortable with. We don't pay so much for our dresses just to pack 'em away after the big day! =)

redvelvet · Mar 8th, 2009, 12:01 AM

I don't see anything at all wrong in wearing your bridal clothes. Just keep the hair and jewelry simple. Wear only earrings and skip the necklace, for example.

khawateen · Mar 8th, 2009, 04:06 AM

i honestly dont get how ANYONE can steal the brides thunder on her wedding day, regardless of what they are wearing... she is sitting way up there on the stage, EVERYONE knows who the bride is.. she's got the whole glow thing going on.. everyone and evevrything (hell even seating arrangement) is directed towards her... just dont get how a bride can feel like someone is tryin to outdo her on her wedding day...

i would wear it. especially cuz its pakistan. at my wedding, all my mumanis wore their bridal lehngas to my barat.. with their tikas and jhoomars ..i loved it.. no one had trouble knowing i was the bride.. nor did i feel like they were tryin to out do me...

tehse days 3 yr olds are walking around with tikkas at weddings... its the norm ..

i think the only thing u can leave out is wearing the dupatta from the head.. otehrwise.. go for it! even the tikka. where else are u gonna get the chance to use ure bridal clothing and jewellary? shopping at sabzi mandi?

even here in denmark ive been to weddings where girls have shown up wearing their bridal gear from head to toe, and there havent been any bad feelings or vibes.. i wonder if its a us and canadian bemaari

Bonbonniere · Mar 8th, 2009, 04:07 AM

Yup. I like the idea of being able to wear my wedding outfit again but not if its the same color as the bride's. I would leave the dupatta off my head and MAYBE wear a tika (I adore tikas) and matching earrings. No necklace.

Sahar02 · Mar 8th, 2009, 07:15 AM

I think it's a great idea.

MiamisweetheartX · Mar 8th, 2009, 02:44 PM

go for it, you'll look amazing!!

Sara516 · Mar 8th, 2009, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by khawateen

tehse days 3 yr olds are walking around with tikkas at weddings... its the norm ..

How dare those 3 year olds

MAYRU · Mar 8th, 2009, 06:12 PM

don't do it !

i agree with khawateen that day is for the bride can you imagine if your outfit looked better .eyes should be on the bride not for the wannabe bride again

Desi_BeauTii · Mar 8th, 2009, 09:33 PM

I personally wouldnt wear it. Your wedding lengha should be special and have the memory of your wedding, not ur brothers. But thats just my feeling.

mysti · Mar 8th, 2009, 10:03 PM

I wore my baraat lehnga to my BIL's wedding just a mnth ago.. and since i didnt get married in pk and was kinda meeting everyone back home for the first time it lookd fab.. there were 2 other newly weds other than me who were all decked out in their wedding outfits wearing heavier jewellery than the bride but i guess it all goes in pk!