fiancee !!!!!!!!!!!!!

soosoo · Sep 12th, 2009, 08:32 PM

salaam sisters
how do u call the fiancee in urdu or punj, i mean the action not the person .

is it necessary for pakistani poeple to do fiancee before marriage ? or u directly marry ? or it depends of couples ?

kurripunjaban · Sep 12th, 2009, 08:37 PM

Engagements are very common nowadays but it varies couple to couple i guess. The urdu word is mangaythar or honay vala

lady_lama · Sep 12th, 2009, 08:47 PM

depends on the people, you can do whatever u guys decide to

starcity · Sep 12th, 2009, 08:50 PM

yep its mangani in punjabi or engagment- its quite common, but depends on u.

soosoo · Sep 12th, 2009, 09:44 PM

thanks

mahismart · Sep 12th, 2009, 11:36 PM

It depends upon the family actually.

* Some think that mangnis/engagements are considered as bad luck in the family so they just do the baat pakki and set a later date for the wedding. No rings are exchanged.

* Some consider big and grand mangnis/engagements as bad luck in the family so they just have a very small intimate gathering with only the family. Rings are exchanged but the parents do the ceremony not the bride and the groom. Sometimes the groom isn't even present at the ceremony.

* Rings are generally not considered as necessary as they do in a non-desi environment. The groom gets a hefty watch instead, occasionally a golden one but I have seen that the grooms prefer the silver ones.

* Some go all out with a big party with all the trappings.

And, yes engagement is called 'mangni' and fiance is 'mangaythar' in Urdu and 'mang' in Punjabi.

bride2be · Sep 12th, 2009, 11:44 PM

fiance/fiancee is mangeytar in urdu and mang in punjabi.
no its not necessary to have an engagement (mangni), although its getting more common now.
most people usually just have a baat pakki or haan which is just the immediate families formalizing things.

soosoo · Sep 13th, 2009, 07:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mahismart

It depends upon the family actually.

* Some think that mangnis/engagements are considered as bad luck in the family so they just do the baat pakki and set a later date for the wedding. No rings are exchanged.

* Some consider big and grand mangnis/engagements as bad luck in the family so they just have a very small intimate gathering with only the family. Rings are exchanged but the parents do the ceremony not the bride and the groom. Sometimes the groom isn't even present at the ceremony.

* Rings are generally not considered as necessary as they do in a non-desi environment. The groom gets a hefty watch instead, occasionally a golden one but I have seen that the grooms prefer the silver ones.

* Some go all out with a big party with all the trappings.

And, yes engagement is called 'mangni' and fiance is 'mangaythar' in Urdu and 'mang' in Punjabi.

Oh ! really interesting to know that !!!!!!!!

one day i have heard that rings its something in culture of europeens not muslims and we should not imitate them , even if we do , we just consider it as gift not as link between the couple , because they beleive that the ring which unite them , so if they loose it , its bad thing !
but we , we must beleive that Allah who unite us not a ring !!!!

thanks for explaining to me

Sapphirez · Sep 13th, 2009, 01:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mahismart

It depends upon the family actually.

* Some think that mangnis/engagements are considered as bad luck in the family so they just do the baat pakki and set a later date for the wedding. No rings are exchanged.

* Some consider big and grand mangnis/engagements as bad luck in the family so they just have a very small intimate gathering with only the family. Rings are exchanged but the parents do the ceremony not the bride and the groom. Sometimes the groom isn't even present at the ceremony.

* Rings are generally not considered as necessary as they do in a non-desi environment. The groom gets a hefty watch instead, occasionally a golden one but I have seen that the grooms prefer the silver ones.

* Some go all out with a big party with all the trappings.

And, yes engagement is called 'mangni' and fiance is 'mangaythar' in Urdu and 'mang' in Punjabi.

Mahi, wow you almost answer all the questions here.. good job!

Bint E Aadam · Sep 13th, 2009, 02:29 PM

Mangetar /Hone walay hsuband ya fiance aur jab UNHE mukhatib kiya jaye to AAP

vanii · Sep 13th, 2009, 10:07 PM

@ topic : "UNHON " is olso used for thes purpose