When & where was ur Nikkah...?

glitterz · Nov 5th, 2009, 09:30 AM

Some people have in Masjid, some at home, some at the hall (where the func is held)..... Some on Mehndi, Some on Barat etc.......
where did u have ur Nikkah.....? And how?

I might sound weired to u, but nowadays the wedding n all is being fixed and i guess elders are thinking to have it on the Mehndi where as i always thought to have my Nikkah on the Barat (Rukhsati)... I'm trying not to think too much about it, but can't help it...
So thought to share with you guys and see how was it with u?

lipstick · Nov 5th, 2009, 09:44 AM

personally i prefer the idea of the nikah during the barat function and then rukhsati straight after on the same day but there's no harm in doing it on the mehndi if thats what ur happy with. i went to a wedding like that last yr. they did the nikah in the hall infront of everyone and then the bride came out and then the mehndi function started. they held the rukhsati on the same day as the walima function. its the first and only wedding ive been to thats happened like this but it worked out quite well for them. one thing i found though was that the older generation didnt like this set up. there was a lot of aunties gossiping and saying that they just tried saving money by doing this way but generally most ppl found it to be ok. if ur happy with it then go for it

xjatti2khanx · Nov 5th, 2009, 09:44 AM

I got married in pakistan, mirpur...some yrs ago

I had my nikkah (at home), but no rukhsati (because all my family were not there)

I came back, worked and went back with family and had a big wedding

and brought back my hubby with me!

But i guess what we usually do ( and what we will do at my sis wedding) is have : -

nikkah on a sunday ( no rukhsati )

dayarra on monday

galiya/sangeet tuesday/wed/thursday

mehndi on friday

baraat/rukhsati on saturday

walima on sunday

So you will have a whole week of celebrations!! :happy

I wouldnt really recommend nikkah on the rukhsati day, as your bound to get emotional

wid all your rellys bawling there eyes out! :cry and ruin your make-up,

but i guess you can still have your nikkah on the same day if say you have your nikkah

first BEFORE getting ready, i know a few ppl that have done that!

lipstick · Nov 5th, 2009, 09:47 AM

^ whats dayarra?

xjatti2khanx · Nov 5th, 2009, 09:55 AM

Dayarra is when they mark the starting of days counting upto the wedding

and on this day the boys side bring a choor ( gifts wrapped in a big satin/silk sheet )

and the girls side open, and then fill it with gifts from their side tie it ang give it back.

After when the groom side leave the girls side spray the whole of the boys side
(inc granny, uncle, aunti jis) with colours!

its really fun!! alot of ppl do this in their weddings.

Muzna · Nov 5th, 2009, 10:27 AM

^ wow....interesting tradition indeed. this is the first time I have heard of something like this. must be regional.

we had our nikah in the actual hall before the rukhsati. we wanted all of our family and friends to witness it.

Tklucky8 · Nov 5th, 2009, 04:29 PM

Glitterz, you are not alone.
My parents are also thinking about getting my nikkah with mehendi and then Have like a wedding reception(combining rukhsati and walima)
My Fiance is not gonna have that many guests since they are smaller family comparing to mine. So the guest list going to be very similar for both days.
So instead of 2 smaller functions, we are thinking of doing 1 big.

I always imagined myself wearing red and all dolled up at nikkah time. But i guess what ever saves money and is better.

Lets see if it works out right now its just an idea.

xoxo ZARA xoxo · Nov 7th, 2009, 04:55 AM

^ ditto.....
I always imagined myself too, in the barat wala joda signing the Nikkah papers n all, but looks like my Nikkah gonna be on Mehndi day too.. but im happy, if everyone want it to be like that.

glitterz · Nov 7th, 2009, 10:27 AM

On my Nikkah im thinking to have a separate duppatta, at Nikkah time i'll try to have it on head..... is thr any specific colour for NIKKAH........? have u guys ever heard of it.?

xjatti2khanx · Nov 7th, 2009, 11:05 AM

we in our family usaually wear white/silver (with kaam on it) it will luk gud, so dnt worry and go for it, good luck!!

glitterz · Nov 7th, 2009, 11:22 AM

I'm sure white looks good, but since my Nikkah will be on mehndi day, i guess white will not look good on my Mehndi outfit....

magnificent · Nov 7th, 2009, 11:24 AM

mine was at milan,italy back in 2000

hinah786 · Nov 7th, 2009, 04:17 PM

A few weddings I've been to have had the nikah on the mehndi so that the groom and bride can sit together on the stage, but don't have "rukhsati" till the next day on the actual wedding day followed by valima, so it's pretty much the same as a regular wedding, juts nikah on a different day.

Hashmat Usmani · Nov 7th, 2009, 04:46 PM

if it happens and whenever it happens insha Allah its gonna be in my village ... thats my dream...not in a five star hotel in LA in my village ... back to where i'm from...back to my roots iA

xjatti2khanx · Nov 7th, 2009, 05:18 PM

^ Hashmat bhai

thats good to hear

mine was also in my village near mirpur, where is ur village?

xoxo ZARA xoxo · Nov 9th, 2009, 01:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hinah786

A few weddings I've been to have had the nikah on the mehndi so that the groom and bride can sit together on the stage, but don't have "rukhsati" till the next day on the actual wedding day followed by valima, so it's pretty much the same as a regular wedding, juts nikah on a different day.

Exactly, i've been to quite a few weddings in the past few years where they had the Nikkah on the Mehndi, Barat (Rukhsati) the next day and valima the following day.... Alot of ppl do it this way i guess.

How was yours Hina? If you don't mind sharing here.....

hinah786 · Nov 9th, 2009, 02:39 AM

Oh lol I'm not married yet, but insha'Allah sometime soon! My engagements at the end of this month