I've been to a lecture on wedding by almaghrib in edinburgh (it was totally awesome)
Well the Sheikh said that when Prophet Muhammed (saw) got married, that night he would meet his wife and he would put his hand on her head and recite a certain dua (I shall try to find out what it is and post it, if any of you guys know please feel free to post it yourselves )
He would then share a date and a glass of milk with his wife-NOTE Share, ie from same glass. They would then read their namaaz together and sleep and then wake up to read their tahajjud together.

I'm sure there may have been something else -like a present or something, but I can't remember what exactly, what I really wanted to get across was the dua. I don't think many of us know about that (I def didn't know), I totally want my hubby to be to do that dua as well. (I think my dad said there is also a dua that the girl reads, I thought I'll learn that by heart closer to my wedding).

Jazakallah. In this day and age when we only relate topics like what to wear and which marriage hall to book and which song to play in the Wedding forum, this is one beautiful thread. Thanks a lot.

i am completely agree with tlk.
people like lala land still exist in this world.
Allah bless you. Aameen.

Here are some duas related to weddings:
Arrival of a bride
Recite:
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَهَا وَخَيْرَ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَشَّرَّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ
"O Allah, I seek the good in it from You and the goodness in the habit and character in her and seek refuge in You from her evil habits and character".
Note: Recite the above dua whilst holding the forehead of the bride for Barakaat (blessings).
(Mishkat from Abu Dawood and Ibn Maja)

Congratulating the bridegroom
Recite:
بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ وَبَارَكَ عَلَيْكُمَا وَجَمَعَ بَيْنَكُمَا فِي خَيْرٍ
"May Allah grant you Barakaat (blessings) and descend His blessings on both of you and keep you united".

(Ahmed, Tirmidhi)

Intention of having relation with wife
Recite:
بِسْمِ اللَّهِّ اللَّهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا
"I am having relations in the name of Allah. O Allah save us from Satan and keep him away from the children You grant us". The child that is born after the recitation of this dua will never be harmed by Satan.

(Bukhari, Muslim)
Note: This dua must be read for if Allah's name is not taken, the Satan's sperm enters with the man's (As in marginal notes of Hisnul Hasin)



Also I have some islamic lectures on marriage and such if anyone wants

Thanks mahiya..

MashaAllah, beautiful thread

I had heard of this dua, but hubby never read it... we did pray two rakat nafil together and then he read out some everyday duas, i was incharge of saying Ameen

Thanks for sharing

Originally Posted by mahiya_f

Here are some duas related to weddings:
Arrival of a bride
Recite:
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَهَا وَخَيْرَ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَشَّرَّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ
"O Allah, I seek the good in it from You and the goodness in the habit and character in her and seek refuge in You from her evil habits and character".
Note: Recite the above dua whilst holding the forehead of the bride for Barakaat (blessings).
(Mishkat from Abu Dawood and Ibn Maja)

Congratulating the bridegroom
Recite:
بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ وَبَارَكَ عَلَيْكُمَا وَجَمَعَ بَيْنَكُمَا فِي خَيْرٍ
"May Allah grant you Barakaat (blessings) and descend His blessings on both of you and keep you united".

(Ahmed, Tirmidhi)

Intention of having relation with wife
Recite:
بِسْمِ اللَّهِّ اللَّهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا
"I am having relations in the name of Allah. O Allah save us from Satan and keep him away from the children You grant us". The child that is born after the recitation of this dua will never be harmed by Satan.

(Bukhari, Muslim)
Note: This dua must be read for if Allah's name is not taken, the Satan's sperm enters with the man's (As in marginal notes of Hisnul Hasin)



Also I have some islamic lectures on marriage and such if anyone wants

Yup, that's the one. Thank you so much mahiya!

JAZAK ALLAH
lala can i have this dua in clear text, i cant read it properly

Originally Posted by pinks

MashaAllah, beautiful thread

I had heard of this dua, but hubby never read it... we did pray two rakat nafil together and then he read out some everyday duas, i was incharge of saying Ameen

^ we did the same, and then hubby turned around and said, now you say some dua's i felt really awkward, and was like well mine are same as yours!!

mashAllah this is one lovely thread
i def learned something new today
jazak Allah lala land

People don't even take a break do offer their namaz during wedding events anymore...yeh dua toh door ki baat hai. That brings me to the question that are the bride and groom exempt from their namaz at their wedding? *hoping for some diss-kaaaa-shin.:

Originally Posted by Niksik

People don't even take a break do offer their namaz during wedding events anymore...yeh dua toh door ki baat hai. That brings me to the question that are the bride and groom exempt from their namaz at their wedding? *hoping for some diss-kaaaa-shin.:

usually baraat leave for hall after isha.. so there is no point of missing prayer..

^but usually they miss maghrib, dont they?

i noticed that previously in a lot of pakistani weddings i went to, there was no break for namaz. These days, Alhumdulillah, its getting better and some weddings taht I do attend to have namaz breaks. Either way I still manage find a place to pray.

In Bengali weddings, most of the weddings that I have been to do have a namaz break.

Lucky for me, on my wedding , the masjid was right next to the hall, so that was convenient.

Hubby and I basically did the 2 rakahs and the duas as well. It was a nice start to a new beginning together.

niks...I think I prayed Asr before I left for the hall. I didn't end up praying Maghrib at the hall. Hubby went tot he masjid to pray, and when I was alone, my family decided to take pics with me. I did pray both magrib and isha when we came home for the dhood pilai thing.

and jazak allah this is a great thread

Originally Posted by Afshi

i noticed that previously in a lot of pakistani weddings i went to, there was no break for namaz.

. In Bengali weddings, most of the weddings that I have been to do have a namaz break.

Fuzool ke racist comments naa phainkain. I've been to both Bengali and Pakistani weddings and I experienced both situations (break and no break)

not being racist silly.

it was just my observation. and I said MOST of the bengali weddings, not all.

and then I said, more and more paki weddings are having namaz breaks.

fuzool ke khichri na banao. (if that makes sense :P)

Originally Posted by Afshi

not being racist silly.

it was just my observation. and I said MOST of the bengali weddings, not all.

and then I said, more and more paki weddings are having namaz breaks.

fuzool ke khichri na banao. (if that makes sense :P)

Haan ab sahee baat kee aap ne ..

good good